Things pregnant women should be applauded for:
Walking up stairs
Rolling over in bed
Getting out of bed
Not peeing for over an hour
Tying their shoe laces
Keeping their cool
Getting out of the bath
Not flinching at rib kicks
Not peeing when sneezing
Not eating everything unhealthy they can get their hands on
Shaving their legs
Painting their toenails
Not crying at everything
There are more… Lots more
Recently, your mother and I were searching for an answer on Google. Halfway through entering the question, Google returned a list of the most popular searches in the world. Perched at the top of the list was “How to keep him interested.”
It startled me. I scanned several of the countless articles about how to be sexy and sexual, when to bring him a beer versus a sandwich, and the ways to make him feel smart and superior.
And I got angry.
Little One, it is not, has never been, and never will be your job to “keep him interested.”
Little One, your only task is to know deeply in your soul—in that unshakeable place that isn’t rattled by rejection and loss and ego—that you are worthy of interest. (If you can remember that everyone else is worthy of interest also, the battle of your life will be mostly won. But that is a letter for another day.)
If you can trust your worth in this way, you will be attractive in the most important sense of the word: you will attract a boy who is both capable of interest and who wants to spend his one life investing all of his interest in you.
Little One, I want to tell you about the boy who doesn’t need to be keptinterested, because he knows you are interesting:
I don’t care if he puts his elbows on the dinner table—as long as he puts his eyes on the way your nose scrunches when you smile. And then can’t stop looking.
I don’t care if he can’t play a bit of golf with me—as long as he can play with the children you give him and revel in all the glorious and frustrating ways they are just like you.
I don’t care if he doesn’t follow his wallet—as long as he follows his heart and it always leads him back to you.
I don’t care if he is strong—as long as he gives you the space to exercise the strength that is in your heart.
I couldn’t care less how he votes—as long as he wakes up every morning and daily elects you to a place of honor in your home and a place of reverence in his heart.
I don’t care about the color of his skin—as long as he paints the canvas of your lives with brushstrokes of patience, and sacrifice, and vulnerability, and tenderness.
I don’t care if he was raised in this religion or that religion or no religion—as long as he was raised to value the sacred and to know every moment of life, and every moment of life with you, is deeply sacred.
In the end, Little One, if you stumble across a man like that and he and I have nothing else in common, we will have the most important thing in common:
Because in the end, Little One, the only thing you should have to do to “keep him interested” is to be you.
Your eternally interested guy,
Happy International Women’s Day
This is so beautiful. I almost cried.
About 5 of my friends recently announced that they are expecting, all due around August-October. And OHMYGOODNESS! I have the worst baby fever in the world at this point. Hubs and I decided that we will start trying again around August of 2015 so baby Eli will be at least 2 1/2 when the new baby gets here. Eli will be such a good big brother.
BUT I WANT TO BE PREGNANT AGAIN AND HAVE A NEW CUTE BABY NOWWWWW.
Do not hate homosexuals, bisexuals, asexuals, ect
But do not hate heterosexuals.
Do not hate trans*gender, agender, non-binary people
But do not hate cissexuals.
Do not hate people of color
But do not hate white people.
Do not hate women
But do not hate men.
Do not hate Christians
But do not hate atheists.
Hatred only breeds more hatred. Is it that hard to understand?
This needs more attention than it’s gotten.
Okay, so Daenerys and I were able to see Dr J today. It went FANTASTIC. Dany got cleared for shots as she’s finally better. The cough is still lingering and it’s more due to thirst than anything.
I showed her the video I snapped of Dany mid tremor, she’s referring her to Shand’s Hospital….
They will likely swaddle her to keep her still. They may have to try a few times since her veins are so tiny. She will likely have some bad bruising where they try. Ask them to give her sugar water as they do it and stay with her if at all possible. Talk to her, sing to her and hold her other hand if you can. My son has had to have blood taken a few times and those things always helped.
Of people of other races trying to make me feel bad for being white.
I’m sorry that there are people still in the world today who are ignorant enough to judge you based on where you’re from and your skin color. But damn it, I’m not one of them. So give your violin a fucking rest and stop being as judgmental as the people you’re harping about.
Or anyone who had an epidural.
Sorry I’m not sorry :P Baby Eli is a GREAT sleeper!
It’s the first one I’ve bought since I got pregnant last year. At that point I was a 32B. I am now a 32DD. Thank you pregnancy.